I couldn’t possibly let her get away with it.
One of the things that allowed me to start this blog was having liberated myself from the “easy” 9-to-5 working mom life. It was bad enough that Sheryl Sandberg was telling women – from a position of privilege – that they had to lean in more. Now Gwynnie thinks the 9-to-5 working mom has it pretty easy compared to being a multi-million dollar movie star?
With an open letter in the New York Post, and a blog post in The Huffington Post, Mackenzie Dawson and Devon Corneal do a perfect job of putting Gwyneth in her place. There’s not a lot more I can add. But I will anyway, at the risk of being repetitive.
When you are worth a reputed $10 million, I guess it’s easy to lose perspective on the everyday woman’s trials and tribulations. When you have an army of childcare staff and chefs and cleaning staff and chauffeurs and stylists at your beck and call, it must be hard to remember what it was like to use a toilet brush, and worry about not making it to the daycare by 6 p.m. before you get dinged $1/minute, and fret about how you’re going to explain yourself to your boss when your kid gets sick and you have to stay home to look after him right at the moment one of your critical work projects is due.
To be fair, the opposite is true, too. People who have never had a stylist don’t understand how terribly annoying it is when the stylist keeps buying the wrong style of Louboutins. When you’ve never had diamond jewellery loaned to you for an awards red carpet, you can’t understand how aggravating it is to have to return it the next day – I’ve got a life too, you know! If you’ve never had a personal chef, you don’t know what a pain in the ass it is when they use milk-fed veal instead of grass-fed.
Truthfully, I can appreciate how Gwyneth would find it difficult to be away from her kids for two whole weeks – heck, I can’t even manage two nights before I’m drowning in my own tears. But if you’ve made a couple of hundred thousand dollars in that time, at least you can afford to fly your kids out (along with childcare staff, of course) to see you, even if you do have to work 14-hour days.
I’ve always believed that moms need to support other moms, regardless of whether they are working moms or stay-at-home moms, or a hybrid. It is no easy task and it’s unfair to judge. But I’ve come to see that when you are a multi millionaire (or even just a millionaire), you have no right to say we have it easier than you. I don’t care what anyone says: money = privilege = power. At least you have options that don’t make you feel like you are depriving your family.